I’m afraid I don’t have the energy to make this sound eloquent or succinct, so I’ll just make it brief. My mom isn’t doing well – at all. She has suddenly taken a turn for the worst, and it seems our few week or months has likely turned into a few hours or days.
Long hours in the hospital, lots and lots of tears and an overwhelming sadness abound. How exactly do you do this? I don’t know. Watch my mom die, get more and more confused and have trouble even breathing.
I’ve had people tell me how lucky I am to have had 27 years with my mom, when so many people don’t get a chance to know their mothers. I am lucky, and I know that, but all of the “silver lining” speeches in the world won’t make me feel better right now. She’s my mom.
Please bear with me for the next few days. I will be back, that much I promise.
I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again. Tell the people you love that you love them. Appreciate them and love them while you can.
Ali - I am so sorry! You must be going through so much right now. I know you can get through this, although it may be very emotionally hard. I lost my mom at age 24 and it was so hard. Yes, I agree, we need to cherish every moment we have with our loved ones. You and your mother will be in my prayers.
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Take your time, Ali. We'll be here with hugs when you feel like you can come back. I lost my mom in 2003 and took about 2 weeks off from life in general. Sometimes it's needed. If you need us, we're here ...
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry your mother is seriously ill. My heart reaches out to you.
ReplyDeleteGrief is grief. When you are losing a parent it is devastating. Age doesn't really come into it.
Do the best you can each day and know that your friends are here for you.
This is a really sad and stressful time for you and your family and no-one can fully appreciate how it is for you because each of our relationships are so unique.
I'll keep you in my prayers.
Sending loving thoughts your way.
Ali, I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through. It doesn't matter how old you are or how many years you have had with your mom, it doesn't make the possibility of losing her any easier.
ReplyDeleteKeeping you and yours in my prayers.
Ali, I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. I lost my mom when I was 26. You and your mom will be in my thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry...I know silver lining speeches are meant to make you feel better but so often the situation is just too raw, just too new to even think that way. But know that everyone reading this and the people in your real life are all so sorry for the stress and grief you are going through now and expect to go through soon.
ReplyDelete"hugs" I am so sorry!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry about your mother.
ReplyDeleteI'm so so sorry. Hang in there. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteAli, my heart goes out to you.
ReplyDeleteI'm serious when I say if you need anything just let me know.
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
xo
Jess
just tears...I have no words.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for what you are going through. I know there is no words that can make it better. You are in my thoughts and prayers. *Hugs*
ReplyDeleteAny one who tells you you are "lucky" must be bitter. The one thing to be glad about is that you have the chance to spend as much time with your mom now as you can.
ReplyDeleteI hope she is comfortable and that you all are getting looked after by the nurses.
My thoughts are with you, and my heart goes out to you.
Ali, I don't think ANY amount of time spent with a loved one makes it "luckier". I hope things turn around. I'll keep her - and you and your family - in my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteI hope she's comfortable, and that you enjoy whatever time comes, if it comes to that.
And don't worry about us! Think of you and her, and we'll be here for you when you get back.
Hugs and prayers. So sorry to hear this!
ReplyDeleteLa-
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still sending you my prayers.
ReplyDeleteCarla
xoxo.
ReplyDeleteAli...nothing but big hugs and thoughts for you and your family.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. <3
ReplyDeleteSending you and your family peace and heartfelt blessings.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts and prayers are with you. My Dad was killed instantly in a car accident on April 13th of this year. For us, there was no warning, there were no good bye's. While I do envy you for being able to tell your Mom you love her and say good bye. I know it won't be any easier than it was without a good bye. Losing a parent is the hardest thing I have EVER had to deal with.
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
ReplyDeleteI know the words "I'm sorry" don't take away the pain, but I really am sorry that you're having to go through this. I lost my father over 10 years ago, suddenly, and the ache of losing a parent is hard to deal with. We're all thinking about you my dear!
ReplyDeleteSo so very sorry!
ReplyDeleteI'm very sorry to hear about your mom. I can't imagine what you are going through. My prayers are with you and your family...
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Oh dear, I'm so very sorry. :( I don't know you, but I've been skimming your blog for a few days because I'm also on a healthy-eating journey.
ReplyDeleteI was so sad to read your post today. I truly hope you and your family are alright.
You've been in my prayers for the past couple of weeks. Please let us know how you're doing and if there is anything we can do to help.
ReplyDeleteHang in there, Kiddo. You posting gave me goosebumps, for I too have walked in your shoes and have heard the same things. People just do not know what to say or do - and no matter if they are 98 or 48, it's never enough. Hugs to you.
ReplyDeleteHi Ali,
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear about your mom. I have not lost a parent yet, but my brother was murdered in a robbery attempt about five months ago, and I finally feel like I'm coming out of the fog. Seeing and feeling the pain of my elderly parents coping with this loss has been the worst. It's so hard to see people that you love suffering so much.
So, not to make this about "me", but to say that I have an idea what you're going through, and I'm sad and sorry for you. I hope you will find some comfort in that your mom's suffering will soon be over.
Actually, I came over to tell you what my "AHA" moment will be regarding my opinion on personal life versus career launch. It will be when my (only) child graduates from college and says, "Mom, I'm moving to ________ (fill in the blank with a distant city) because Big Company offered me a good job." So, I'll get mine!
Hang in there, and I'll say some prayers for your family.
HUGS!!!
Sweet Ali,
ReplyDeleteYou haven't posted in a while so I'm fearing the worst. I want you to know I'm praying for you. I know that words don't mean much, but I'm a firm believer that prayers can make a difference in all the ways we need them to, whether we realize we need them or not. Hang in there girl...be good to yourself. You're so worth it.